Learn how to manage your feelings well.

Trying to figure out if this class is right for you? Do a self-test.
The left side describes someone who has a hard time with tough feelings; the right side describes someone who is managing their feelings wisely. If you say "yes" more often on the left, this class may be the right next step for you. 

Uh-oh, there are some warning signs!

  • I ignore, suppress, or detach from feelings.
  • I experience feelings that seem to happen for no reason.
  • I judge feelings as good or bad.
  • I blame others for feeling a certain way.
  • I need others to validate my feelings.
  • I tend to be poker-faced; unwilling or afraid to express my feelings.
  • I overreact or appear numb.
  • I consider crying a weakness.
  • I feel overwhelmed by feelings and a sense of “going crazy.”
  • I have low frustration tolerance; fall apart under pressure.
  • I get stuck on one feeling.
  • I have uncontrollable mood swings.
  • I hold on to archaic feelings.
  • I have irrational or unexplained fears; unresolved trauma.
  • I experience chronic feelings of emptiness or boredom.
  • I avoid having fun, laughing, and feeling good.

Excellent, you got this!

  • I pay attention to feelings.
  • I understand what causes certain feelings.
  • I welcome all feelings.
  • I own responsibility for my feelings.
  • I trust that my feelings are valid.
  • I express feelings through words, aligned facial expression, and body language.
  • I can regulate overwhelming feelings through creating distance.
  • I am comfortable with crying.
  • I process strong emotions through exercise, art, music, writing, and sharing.
  • I tolerate feelings even if they are uncomfortable.
  • I can deliberately shift to a different feeling.
  • I am able to let go of resentments and past hurts.
  • I have processed through past traumatic events.
  • I practice healthy self-soothing strategies.
  • I allow feelings to inform decision-making and deliberate actions to take.
  • I enjoy laughing and having fun. 
 In order to increase your emotional intelligence we will look at 10 tools to improve your ability to manage feelings well. 
  1. Understanding the legacy of invalidated feelings
  2. Identifying the feeling
  3. Creating productive distance
  4. Stating the type of feeling
  5. Taking appropriate action in response to a feeling
  6. Shifting to a different feeling
  7. Mastering anger and love
  8. Mastering fear and relief
  9. Mastering sadness and joy
  10. Mastering shame and pride